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About MAX

MAX is a social community for gay men and their friends.  It stands for three things: Men, Activities and Xtra Value. Our goal is to work together as a group to provide gay men in the San Francisco Bay Area with a large roster of social events that offer the greatest value possible for a fair cost. We work as a team to create our own original programming, plus work in concert with other organizations to promote their events in order to provide as many social options as possible to our members.

Our members join MAX to form real relationships with real people. MAX is more than a great alternative to meeting people through an app or at the bars; we are a fun, open, diverse and welcoming community where everyone is asked to contribute to the group's overall success. Through MAX events, people regularly meet old friends, meet potential friends, lead, support and participate in interesting events, and have fun.

MAX (originally known as Men’s Associated Exchange) was established in 1988 in response to the AIDS crisis. Out of fear, many gay men had stopped going out; MAX’s purpose was to create a “safe space” for gay men to socialize. Within a short time, it had grown to over 1000 dues-paying members who participated in dozens of activities each year. After an eight year hiatus, MAX was revived in 2016.

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MAX Board

Jason Feinberg

Jason is passionate about his work helping people follow their dreams by launching startups. Born in New York City, Jason moved to San Francisco in 1994. It was then that he first found out about MAX, and he formed instant friendships upon joining. He hosts First Fridays (TGIF) and coordinates MAX’s fundraiser event in May. Jason’s passion in today’s MAX is introducing those he knows to others, and meeting new people. He currently lives near Dolores Park.


Stuart McFaul

Stuart is the founder and president of Spiralgroup, an award-winning marketing consultancy for emerging technology companies. A MAX member since 1995, he is the current MAX chairman. A born and bred San Franciscan, Stuart and his husband Nick Cianci live in the Castro.


Paul Munro

Paul is Director of Software for a medical device startup in the East Bay. A MAX member since the mid 90’s, Paul became an active volunteer in 2017 to help foster opportunities for gay men to make real connections and build community. Paul is currently serving as MAX SF Secretary and MAX SF Programs and Events Chair. Paul grew up in South Dakota, Oregon, and Wyoming, and has lived in the SF Bay Area (South Bay) for over three decades, currently residing in Emeryville.


Nick Wade

Nick is a Director of Occupational Medicine and lives in the West Bay area. He has been a MAX member since Jan 2018 when he first moved to San Francisco and has found it a great way to make friends and socialize. Nick became a MAX board member in May 2018 and enjoys organising theatre events. He believes that MAX as an organization can build community.


Jerry Tusan

Jerry is a Wine Distributor in San Francisco. He first first joined MAX in 1994 and is currently on the board. Born in Fresno, CA, Jerry now lives in Diamond Heights and is looking forward to attending events and supporting/chairing activities.

Phil Walker

Phil is a trial lawyer with his own law firm in San Francisco, representing employers in workers’ compensation and insurance matters nationally. He sings with the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus, is a nationally-known speaker, and is the CEO of Affordable India Gay Travel (his newest venture).

Phil joined MAX in 1991 and served as Chair in 1995. Since MAX’s re-founding, he has served as Chair, Program Director, House Master, New Member Director, Third Thursday founder, and Travel Leader. He has hosted numerous MAX events including the reunion that led to the re-founding of MAX. In 2019, Phil will be leading trips to India, Cuba, and Alaska.

Phil hails from Miami, Florida and now lives in Mission Bay. He was born in Alabama and attended Vanderbilt University and Washington & Lee Law School. His partner is Dr. Refat Rasul of Seylat, Bangladesh. (Refat joined the MAX trip to India as trip doctor.)

Phil loves MAX because of its community, connection, and creativity. Over 50% of his friends come from MAX. Phil believes MAX is unique--pioneering the way for gay men (and their friends) to live exuberant, fun, and friend-filled lives as they grow more ‘vintage’.

Robert Martin

Robert Martin works for Noodle.ai as an Executive Director in business and product development. He has worked in technology consulting and finance for over 15 years. He joined MAX 3 years ago at the re-initiation when he learned of its mission and history. To date he has helped manage MAX’s finances as well as a great deal of behind the scenes work to ensure the smooth financial operation of MAX. Born in Ireland, Robert now resides in the Haight Ashbury neighborhood with his partner Ross.


Phil Carberry

351 Diamond Street
San Francisco, CA 94114
(415) 562-5582

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